We will counsel you on your unspeakable concerns.
National...
- competition on worries! - Competition on worries!
(National Competition on Worries)
(Hello)
Please welcome Park Ji Woo,
- the dance sports master. - Park Ji Woo!
- Hello. - Hello.
She's the icon of someone who takes good care of her body.
It's comedienne Lee Gook Ju!
I'm feeling good. Let's go.
(She lost weight.)
- Let's go. - We have poet Ha Sang Wook.
Hello. Nice to meet you.
She's a talented, newbie actress. Park U Ha!
Welcome.
(Actress Park U Ha)
(She's pretty.)
I read a news article about her recently.
It talked about how her appearance has changed.
You know how we greet you guys...
before entering the studio, right?
But many of you seemed surprised.
- No way. - No, I'm serious.
Was it because you didn't see any changes in her?
- That could be right. - They didn't see any changes.
- I... - They were surprised.
"She didn't change at all."
I'm embarrassed about this because for you guys...
losing 8kg to 9kg is a huge deal.
But for me,
I just need to be careful for 2 to 3 weeks.
- "Careful"? - I lose 2kg to 3kg...
- once I go to the bathroom. - If you lose any more weight,
you'll get kicked out of this country.
- You're right. - You'll be exiled.
When you hear that you've lost weight,
don't you get motivated although you feel embarrassed?
Yes, I do. I'm planning to lose 7kg more.
- Really? - I can cut my toenails now.
(She can cut her toenails while sitting.)
Goodness.
- Everyone's clapping. - What is going on?
- So... - A long time ago,
- she used a long stick... - I used to do this.
- to grind the nails. - That's right.
(Laughing)
(She has improved her way of cutting her toenails.)
Could you introduce a sports dance...
that could help her?
- Jive is an upbeat dance. - I like upbeat dances.
- "Jive"? - You keep jumping.
- You dance like this. - You need to move all the time.
- It's intense and... - It's very passionate.
- All right, let's see it. - Please show us.
Good luck, Gook Ju!
First, let's see...
- if you can jump. - If I can jump?
Of course, she can.
Go. Jump three times.
Who said, "Will the stage collapse?"
- Let's do an old-style skit. - Who was it?
- Jump. - We'll do an old-style skit.
(Jumping)
(Thumping)
(They're very good.)
Please do it with us.
- Let's do it together. - Do it with us.
- Okay. - Get ready, set, go.
"Oh, honey!"
(Everyone is bouncing.)
(They play along.)
(Good job!)
It's hilarious that they're doing it with us.
- I'm tired. - You're good at jumping.
This is easy.
I'll teach you the steps. It's very easy.
- Right, left. Stomp. Stomp. - 1, 2. Stomp. Stomp.
- Left and left. - Left and left.
- Stomp. Stomp. - Stomp. Stomp.
Done. Bravo.
(She was perfect.)
(The jive begins.)
- Thank you. - Look at me.
1, 2, go.
(It's exciting.)
Go!
(They're in harmony.)
(She's feeling the music.)
Spin.
(They do a final bow.)
That was amazing!
That was incredible.
You're good.
Sang Wook,
you're pretty much known as the very first poet...
to write things on his SNS.
You're famous for writing poems about everyday lives...
that people can agree on.
I heard that...
- you enjoy this show. - I really like it.
While watching this show, I come up with new ideas.
I've written many poems thanks to this show.
For example, I wrote,
"Nothing is too trivial to be a worry."
"You should sympathize with such trivial worries."
I can relate to it.
You were recently in a drama called...
"Left-Handed Wife".
People loved your perky character.
- The drama has ended now. - Yes.
Was there anything you think was a bit overboard?
It's actually harder to find something...
that actually makes sense.
- Seriously? - Yes.
- That's what made it fun. - Right.
Such unexpected incidents occurred day after day.
- Right. - Someone would lose their memory...
or get into an accident.
Didn't the characters change faces?
Yes, they did.
But the problem was one was shorter than the other.
People talked about how they swapped faces but not heights.
- Viewers had sharp eyes. - Right.
We like that...
you can tell us about that drama.
But what do you think the writer would think about this?
(She's made a mistake.)
You said that nothing was realistic.
Do you think you'll be cast in another drama in the future?
- I'm sorry. - Soon...
All right.
(She's adorable.)
We have three worries for today.
Show us the keywords, please.
(The keywords are revealed.)
"Unexpected Childrearing". "Already 12am".
- "Spare Me". - "Spare Me".
("Unexpected Childrearing", "Already 12am", "Spare Me")
"Already 12am".
Hello, I'm an individual who has just gotten a job.
You know how after work, you have a drink...
with your coworkers and just chat?
But why does that sound like a dream for me?
Every time I get off work and try to grab something to eat...
"Daughter, where are you?" "Did you get off work?"
"Daughter."
My mom calls me all the time.
This is because of the curfew.
My curfew is 12am.
However, she starts calling me 2 to 3 hours before 12am.
"Hello? You. Why didn't you answer your phone?"
"I was watching a movie, so I couldn't."
"What? Do you not look at your phone during a movie?"
Wait. What does she mean?
Isn't it a must to watch a movie while looking at your phone?
(The daughter was in the wrong.)
You're right.
Aren't you supposed to turn off your phone during a movie?
My mom doesn't give in a bit when it comes to my curfew.
One time, I was upset about something...
and went home a little bit past 12am.
"Have you lost your mind? A woman shouldn't stay out late!"
"Mom, earlier today,"
"I quit my job, so I feel..."
"Quitting your job is no big deal."
"Why did you come home so late?"
Then I can't continue the conversation with her.
Please give me freedom. Please help me.
That's all.
(Please give me freedom.)
So she should be home before 12am no matter what happens.
Did you have a curfew?
It only begins at 12am.
It begins at 12am?
(Impressed)
Gook Ju, did you have a curfew too?
Do you think I didn't have a curfew?
I think you had a curfew.
No, I didn't.
- "Just come back home." - "Just come back home"?
(I love Gook Ju.)
From what I gather, her curfew is 12am,
- but if we consider travel time, - Right.
So I think her curfew is actually 11pm.
Do you not tell your wife to come home at a certain time?
She should be home early.
- Exactly. - But that's different.
What time should your wife be home?
She should be home by 10pm.
I mean, 6pm.
- What? You mean, 6am? - What?
Why are you looking at me like that?
Whenever she goes out?
He dances like this,
but his thoughts are like...
(His way of thinking is old-fashioned.)
- His thoughts? - Yes.
(His actions are different from his words.)
It's a story of a 24-year-old daughter who wants to be free.
Please come out.
(Who is stressed out because of her strict mother?)
- Sang Wook, go help her, please. - Sang Wook.
Hello
Help her to come up.
(Seon Hye Rim)
Oh, dear.
Please be careful when you get up.
(It's nice to meet you.)
Some people with children might think...
that a 12am curfew isn't so strict...
and that your parents were quite considerate of you.
- Some might think that way. - I know.
But I feel like I will never have freedom in my entire life.
When I eat or have a drink with my friends,
the friends who are younger than me are worried about me.
They say, "Hye Rim, shouldn't you go home now?"
It makes me feel like I'm a little child.
In fact, we had a few guests who had a curfew of 7pm or 8pm.
But considering my job... I work at a restaurant,
and I work until late evening.
- It's your current job, right? - Yes.
I finish work at 9pm.
It takes an hour from work to home.
- 10pm? - She gets home at 10pm.
I arrive home at around 10pm. After eating dinner and all,
it's almost 12am. So I don't have much time.
So the 12am curfew is pointless for you.
My parents star calling me at 9pm or 10pm.
If I don't call them back in a minute,
they ask why I didn't pick up.
If I say that I went to the restroom,
they say I should've carried my phone to the restroom.
(Why didn't you take your phone with you?)
You said that your mother called you...
when you were watching a movie in a theater.
Since I didn't reply to her while watching the movie,
she called all of my friends...
to ask if they were with me.
Besides, I wasn't at the theater late at night.
It was between 6pm and 7pm.
- It's because you didn't pick up. - Yes.
Did she know that you have a boyfriend?
Yes.
She has a boyfriend?
(What is he thinking about?)
Well... Honestly, I can understand your mother a little bit.
(Dong Yeob is so funny.)
However, don't you have any problem dating your boyfriend?
No. My boyfriend doesn't have a problem with my curfew.
- At all? - That's right.
Instead, he's worried the curfew might cause...
- a conflict between me and my mom. - Is he?
Sang Wook, when is the curfew...
- for your girlfriend? - She doesn't have a curfew.
- She doesn't. - How do you think as a boyfriend?
I think it's so great.
- I see. - Is that right?
- I see. - What if she has a 12am curfew?
- Pardon me? - A 12am curfew.
- It would be hard. However, - As a boyfriend...
I can't do anything about it.
So I would adjust to her schedule.
Of course, you should. It's not hard at all.
You can meet her before you go to work.
You can meet her early.
- Oh, right. I see. - Right.
When was the earliest time you've met him? Be honest with us.
We always meet up at 5 or 6...
- In the morning? - In the morning?
No, no.
- Gosh, no. - My goodness.
You have done it before, right?
(They said it at the same time.)
(I didn't think of it. Thank you for the good tip.)
Do your parents act like that even though you've never...
caused trouble or misbehaved yourself?
That's right. I have never drunk too much...
to keep myself together, to be honest.
Maybe you didn't think you were drunk, but you actually were.
"Why must I only be home so early?"
You might not know your drinking habit.
I think that my mom believes that a woman should not...
- stay out late. - A woman?
Then do you have a brother?
I have a brother who is one year older than me.
My brother didn't have a curfew.
And now he's living alone.
- He's living alone? - My parents are generous with him.
- With your brother? - Yes.
Nowadays, it's rare to see young people in their 20s...
- who do as their moms tell them to. - That's right.
Let's talk about the details with her mother.
Hello, ma'am.
- Hello. I'm her mother. - Hello.
(Who is her mother who can't give up on her curfew?)
We always ask this question first.
Can you understand why your daughter is worried?
No. I don't think it's a worry.
- I'm the one who should be worried. - Please explain.
When my daughter was in high school,
she didn't even talk back to me.
But she started talking back to me.
She told me not to shelter her.
So I said I hadn't sheltered her.
I've allowed her to sleep out...
and to see her boyfriend.
When did she sleep out?
Did she go to a slumber party or something?
I never allowed her to do things like that.
She suddenly looks so serious.
- Let's hear her out. - Hang on a second.
- Why did she sleep out then? - What does that mean?
What was that?
I thought you were so cool.
When did you allow her to sleep out? Was it a school trip?
- Yes. - Oh, a school trip?
- It was an official occasion. - You don't call that sleeping out.
- Ma'am, it was a school trip. - Oh, gosh.
I let her stay at her friend's house overnight from time to time.
But I asked a few things about her friend's family...
such as if she has a brother, or if her parents would be there.
Under these conditions, I allowed her to sleep over at her friends'.
If her parents are at her house,
it doesn't matter if she has a brother.
Can't you accept that either?
(Chuckling)
Please tell us instead of laughing.
Please.
(We wonder what is on her mind.)
How do you feel when you can't reach your daughter?
Do you feel anxious?
When I can't reach her, I feel anxious and worried.
I wonder if something bad happened to her and why she won't pick up.
However, must she answer your calls even in a movie theater?
She may not be able to talk, but she can check my texts.
- No, she can't. - The light from the phone...
- It's a nuisance to other people. - It's very annoying.
Some people get so scared...
when they see the light.
You should understand that when she's in a movie theater.
This would be enough, right?
That was good.
Your daughter will go to the movies more often.
My voice is hoarse because I screamed.
(I'll go to the movies more often.)
Have you ever gone home after 12am?
To tell you the truth, I think I've done it only a few times.
Since my mom nagged me to come home quickly,
I took a taxi to get home quickly.
- She said I shouldn't have. - She doesn't let you take a taxi.
She said I should always use public transportation.
If you wanted her to come quickly, why didn't you let her take a taxi?
It's dangerous for a woman to take a taxi...
at late night after 12am. I see the news...
about unfortunate incidents very often.
I'm worried when I imagine her taking a taxi alone.
In fact, you must still look like a baby...
in your mother's eyes.
It's not because of you. It's because it's a dangerous world.
She must be worried when she sees the news.
I can understand how your mother must feel.
- So can I. - Right.
- But... - Just keep your 12am curfew.
All right. Let's wrap up this story.
(That's all for this story.)
(Is there anyone on my side?)
Your daughter told us...
that you are more generous with your son.
I kept him under my control until he was a sophomore in college.
Then do you let him do whatever he wants now?
You don't call him even when he stays out late with his girlfriend?
He doesn't have a girlfriend.
How would you know that?
No one can know.
Her son is very smart.
(Why are you doing this to me?)
I heard that my mother, too, has been home late before.
I heard that she was scolded by my aunt...
because she got home after 12am.
- Your mother's elder sister? - Yes.
Your aunt told you that, right?
- My dad told me. - Your dad?
- When he was dating your mother? - Yes, when they were dating.
- She was in her 20s. - My goodness.
(Her mother was the same.)
- I don't know. I can't remember. - Is it true?
- Gosh. - People say they can't remember...
How about your father? Is he the same as your mother?
My dad believes that a woman should not be home late more strongly.
- Your father does? - But he dated your mom until late.
However, it's my mom that he nags at.
He keeps telling my mom that I haven't come home,
so she should try calling me.
Since he won't stop nagging at her,
she gets stressed out.
That's probably why she became even more strict with me.
- Because he nags at your mother? - Yes.
- Her father is on top. - That's right.
Sir, I guess you nag at your daughter instead of your wife?
No. As a matter of fact, I'm neutral.
(He suddenly claims he's neutral.)
That's unexpected.
So you don't nag at your daughter when she's home late?
That's not what I mean. I tell her mom instead.
Exactly. That's exactly what we've been talking about.
My daughter is in her 20s.
I think she should have some fun in her 20s.
But you tell your wife to try calling your daughter.
- Right now. - I mean...
- You said you told her to. - Which one is the truth?
I only ask her, "Why hasn't she come home yet? When is she coming?"
That's the same thing, sir.
Have you ever seen your wife...
and your daughter fight over this?
They had a big fight recently.
My wife told my daughter,
"If you're going to act like that, do whatever you want."
- "I don't care anymore." - That's good.
She cried so much. I'd never seen it before.
- Who cried? - My wife.
Your wife.
She was very hurt.
After that, my daughter wrote, "Communication broken off",
- In her status message? - and stopped talking.
Couldn't you...
take your daughter's side...
and try to talk...
to your wife?
I start work early in the morning.
When I pass by Hongdae in the morning,
I see some young people outside.
- Right. - They stagger around drunk.
When I see that, it makes me worried.
I don't want my daughter to do that.
You're being indirect, but are you not going to push back the curfew?
- He doesn't want to. - No.
- I wouldn't be okay with that. - Sir.
He's actually even stricter...
- than his wife. - Yes.
I understand young people,
- But not your daughter. - but my daughter...
is tiny.
She can put on some weight.
(I can help her.)
- If she's tiny... - She's not that...
active either.
I still call her my baby at home.
But...
because you think, "My baby is different from others",
your daughter is having trouble...
- forming relationships with others. - Right.
She might become more and more unhappy.
- So... - While Dong Yeob was talking,
she was looking at him and thinking,
"I wish he was my dad."
- Call her Dad. - She was thinking that.
She seemed so grateful.
Didn't you think that?
- A little. - A little.
Call her Dad. Dad Shin.
"Dad Shin"?
- "Dad Shin"? - A new dad?
Let's meet her brother, who is a year older than her.
Can you take a close-up of him?
Your mom said...
you don't have a girlfriend. Is that true?
Yes, it's true.
- What? - I don't have a girlfriend.
- Really? - I don't have a girlfriend.
(His eyes are shaking.)
But your eyes are shaking.
- Then... - You need experience.
would you be okay with your son being on a date until 1am...
if he had a girlfriend?
I wouldn't be okay with that either.
- Really? - What time then?
He is my son. His girlfriend is...
someone's precious daughter.
- She should be protected... - And go home before 12am?
(Should she go home before 12am too?)
This is why Chung Ha sang that song.
She has to go home before 12am too.
She has to.
(Too bad, it's already 12am)
(She expresses her frustration with her whole body.)
Do you understand why your sister is worried?
Yes, I fully understand her.
When did you feel...
most sorry for your sister?
When we were little,
we had only two rooms.
I used one of them,
and the other room was shared by my parents and sister.
- The three of them shared a room? - My parents and...
(The three of them shared a room.)
Yes. We lived in a place like that.
- Until when? - Until I got a job...
and moved out.
Until your sister was 23?
Yes, until I was 24.
- You didn't have your own room? - No.
I would have hated it.
We used a bunk bed. When I had the light on,
my parents...
couldn't sleep.
I had to be careful.
It was hard to change too.
Unfortunately for our kids,
our financial situation was not that good.
(Our financial situation was not that good.)
In that situation,
you could have given the rooms to your kids...
- and used the living room. - Right.
But we used the living room as our room.
- As your room. - Yes.
(There was only one bedroom.)
So we put our beds, wardrobe, and TV...
- All of them. - in the living room.
(She gave up her freedom for her brother.)
In addition to not having your own room,
what other things made you feel you were not being treated equally?
My parents gave money to my brother when he was in college.
But I started doing part-time jobs since I was 20 years old.
I rarely received any money from them.
- That's so thoughtful of you. - Did you always earn money?
Yes.
You must have felt grateful.
Your daughter did part-time jobs and earned money.
Yes, I was grateful. She's pretty.
- She's very nice. - Then give her more freedom.
- Then... - Just a bit more.
I'm already starting...
to understand the daughter's position.
- I do. - Her brother is only a year older.
I can understand why she's hurt.
Why don't you tell us everything?
Tell us everything.
I don't think I was treated unfairly because I'm a girl.
But they have some prejudice.
Even when my brother is home, I'm the one who should cook.
I also should do the dishes right away.
The audience is leaning towards you.
I think you were treated unfairly because you're a girl.
Right.
They also say I should prepare breakfast for my husband.
Sir, you said your daughter was still a baby to you.
(He said she was weak.)
If she's a baby, why do you make her cook?
That's her mom's prejudice.
Her stereotype.
It's just her ideas, not yours?
Exactly. I'm in the middle.
- What are you talking about? - He puts the blame on his wife.
- You agree with her. - Sir.
He keeps saying he's in the middle.
(Glancing)
(Let's talk at home.)
I'm curious.
Apart from the curfew issue, are there any other problems?
I wanted to have a hobby,
so I started learning calligraphy.
It costs about 90 dollars a month.
- Mom thinks it's too expensive. - She thinks it's a waste.
She asks me why am I paying so much to learn it?
Does she pay for it?
No. I pay for it.
She's paying for it herself. Why would you criticize her?
Ma'am, it's not like you're paying for it.
I think...
she spends too much money.
Something is delivered to her every day.
Clothes, shoes, and so on.
She gets a delivery every day.
We get 2 or 3 deliveries a year...
at most.
That's so little.
(You could spend more.)
She wanted to learn...
how to make rice cakes too.
(The next item on her list is rice cakes.)
Rice cakes?
- How to make rice cakes? - They're so tasty.
It's not the right context.
(Please stay on the subject.)
Let's listen to her.
But even if she learns it,
we have a birthday only once a year.
(That's so narrow-minded.)
I'm more realistic.
When our kids get married,
we can't give them much financial help.
I want her to save up money...
- and use that money. - When she gets married.
- When she gets married. - I understand...
- what you mean. - But...
(Mom doesn't think about the present.)
Young people these days don't think,
"I should save up money..."
"and do something in the future."
They want to experience things and learn new things.
They want to do things that make them happy.
It's not just...
simple calculations.
(They don't sacrifice the present for a better future.)
The parents love their daughter so much,
and the daughter knows that.
Still, the parents suffocate the daughter,
and the daughter doesn't feel happy around her parents.
They might drift further and further apart.
The parents will feel hurt,
and the daughter will feel frustrated.
(Why did we end up like this?)
I think...
both the parents and the daughter...
should start changing.
I once had a big fight with my mom.
I want to tell you about it.
Like other daughters,
I wanted to be able to talk about guys with my mom.
I wanted to talk about the things I did with my boyfriend with her.
But my mom just cut off our conversation.
"Guys? Focus on your work."
So just like your daughter, I couldn't talk to her anymore.
(I became scared of talking to my mom.)
One day, it exploded.
I yelled at my mom for the first time as a grown-up.
"Mom, parents are not always right,"
"and children are not always wrong."
"I've been working hard."
"I've been through all kinds of things. Sometimes, I wanted to die."
"Sometimes, I wanted to quit. But I couldn't say anything to you."
"Why? Because I know you won't listen to me."
(I can't talk to my mom because I know she won't listen to me.)
If you don't listen to her and only say no to her,
how will she relieve her stress?
It'll only get her off track.
Just listen to her and let her do things,
and you'll become good friends with her.
- Right. - Yes.
You can do it.
All right.
(You can start over right now.)
What are the specific things you want?
Our topic is a curfew.
- Curfew. - Most of all,
I want my curfew to be pushed back a bit.
And I want us to stop fighting over it.
What time?
(What time should your curfew be?)
- You want it to be pushed back. - 1am.
She wants her curfew to be pushed back to 1am.
(Is it okay?)
- 1am is too late. - Okay.
(Impossible)
(You're so stubborn.)
Okay.
How about 12:30am?
(Mom suggests 12:30am.)
Then can you wait until about 12:35am...
before you call her?
(Can you call her only when she's late?)
(Can you stop calling her all the time?)
- Yes, I'll do that. - Oh, wow.
(She agrees on it gladly.)
- Ma'am, you raised her well. - Would that be okay with you?
- That's right. - You raised her so well.
You can't find a daughter who shares a room with her parents...
- and works part-time as well. - Exactly.
Other children who are watching this must feel uncomfortable.
They must feel apologetic towards their parents.
- I bet they turned off the TV. - They already switched the channel.
(They must have turned off the TV.)
"She's talking nonsense."
They must've been afraid their parents might watch it.
Say what you want to tell your mother.
Mom, it's your first time being a mother.
It's my first time being a daughter too.
I hope we can talk to each other more often.
I also want us...
to get along well with each other from now on.
- Tell her that you love her. - I love you.
(I love you.)
Oh, dear.
Say a word to your daughter.
- Try to speak nicely. - Hye Rim.
Ma'am, speak more softly.
- Hye Rim. - Hye Rim.
- Try to say it like this."Hye Rim." - Practice a little.
- Ready. Go. - Practice a little.
Hye Rim.
That's nice.
(She sounds very awkward.)
- That's so nice. - Great.
(You did well.)
Good.
You grew up to be pretty and kind.
Of course.
(She feels grateful and apologetic at the same time.)
Thank you for growing up so well.
(He breaks down in tears that he barely held back.)
[VIU Ver] E419 Hello Counselor "Importance of Relationship" -♥ Ruo Xi ♥-
Let's have more conversations from now on.
And let's try to get along well. I love you.
(Let's try to get along well. I love you.)
Do you think it's a worry or not?
I don't think it's a worry.
You believe that if you endure the pain you have now,
happiness will come to you.
However, if you give up on all the fun things you can do now,
there will be no way you can relieve stress.
I definitely think it's a worry.
I felt guilty when she talked about learning calligraphy.
Last week, my wife said that she found a new hobby.
She said she wanted to learn calligraphy with her friends.
(Calligraphy helps to get away from the daily routine.)
What did you say to your wife?
What was your answer?
(How did he react?)
I said the same thing as what Hye Rim's mother said.
"Hey, what's the point of learning it?"
I suggested that she should do more lessons instead.
How do you feel now that you've heard from Hye Rim?
I think...
that I should let her do it no matter what.
- Of course. - I think it's a worry.
(I told you, calligraphy is good.)
If you think it's a worry,
please press the button.
(Please send us your worries about yourself, family, and friends.)
- "Already 12am". 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. - 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
Time's up.
I wonder how many votes she got. Please show us the result.
(The result)
(How many people in the audience think it's a worry?)
- It's over 100. - Could it be 139?
149 votes.
(149 votes)
"Spare Me".
Hello. I'm an office worker in my 30s...
who suffers from chronic fatigue.
It's because I can't be home after work and on weekends.
(Phone ringing)
"Hey, did you get off work? Come to the golf range right now."
"Hey, what are you doing? It's the weekend. Let's go cycling."
"Hey, the ski season begins next month. Let's go!"
It's because of my friend who is addicted to exercises.
He should do it by himself,
but he always forces me to do it with him.
"Hey, stop eating. Let's go for another round."
"I'm too tired. I can't do it anymore."
"Why are you tired already?"
"That's why you look like that. Do you hear me?"
It's more like intense training than an enjoyable hobby.
(It's more like intense training.)
"I can't go there because I have plans this weekend."
"I'm going on a blind date."
"What? That's not acceptable."
"The blind date doesn't matter. Just come out now!"
- He's so good at this. - A blind date matters more to me.
Please stop my friend before someone collapses.
(My friend, please spare me.)
Let's meet with the guest.
Please come out.
(Who is worried about his friend who gets addicted easily?)
(Hi, everyone.)
(Laughing)
(Hooray)
(He doesn't seem usual.)
(Welcome.)
Please introduce yourself.
Okay. I'm from Daegu.
I'm Choi Hyeong Min. It's nice to meet you all.
Welcome.
You're from Daegu, but you don't speak in dialect so much.
- I don't speak in dialect so much. - I see.
- You don't? - It's hard to tell.
I can't tell that you're from Daegu.
I practiced a little to come on the show.
How hard does your friend exercise to make you come on this show?
My friend has a lot of hobbies.
- I'll tell you his favorite. - Tell us.
- Ski, scuba diving, - Ski in winter.
- cycling, and golf. - Cycling and golf.
He enjoys these four sports.
Say it again in Seoul accent.
- Ski, - Ski.
scuba diving, and golf.
"Golf".
(He exaggerated "R" sound.)
- "Golf." - "Golf."
- However, he... - How often does he do it?
- You just spoke in dialect. - That's right.
When he goes cycling,
he travels 250km going from Daegu to Ulsan and back.
From Daegu to Ulsan?
- Just for fun. - Just for fun?
(He exercises that much just for fun.)
He rides 250km for a round trip?
If he seems determined to exercise a little intensely,
he goes to Seoul and comes back to Daegu.
- No way. It's too far. - In a day?
- In a day? - It can be a two-day trip too.
Could his job be related to sports?
No. He's just an ordinary office worker.
But he's very competitive.
When he starts learning a sport,
he gets a great number of licenses.
However, it must help to keep yourself healthy.
- I understand he's competitive. - He exercises hard.
I work in Busan.
But my friend lives in Daegu.
And he calls me every day to ask me to play golf with him.
So I always come back to Busan late at night.
Seeing me tired and weak,
- Tired and weak? - the manager worries about me,
and it affects my work.
- You're late for work too. - Yes.
Due to excessive exercise, I developed fatigue fraction.
I limp when I walk around on the streets.
Why can't you stop him if you were too tired?
You can say, "I can't do it. You do it alone."
When I try to avoid exercising,
he says, "That's why you look like that."
That's what he says to me.
- Oh, my goodness. - He ruins my self-esteem.
- He ruins it? - Yes.
But you can still refuse it.
However, I...
find it hard to refuse.
- What about the blind date? - The blind date?
He stopped you from going on a blind date.
In fact, I'm still single.
I'm 34 years old now.
I want to meet someone and get married soon.
It's important.
It's important, but he says,
"You don't need a woman in your life.
- What about your friend? - Is he also single?
- He's married. - Gosh.
(My friend is married.)
- That's ridiculous. - Gosh.
He doesn't need to meet someone.
(Why can't you let me meet a girl?)
To show everyone how passionate he is about his hobbies,
we prepared some footage of him enjoying his hobbies.
- Oh, my. He looks fabulous. - Gosh, look at that.
That's a very expensive bike.
(Charismatic)
He's good at it.
- Good shot. - He does scuba diving too.
Only expert divers can dive that deep...
under the sea.
He filmed this by himself, right?
- That was filmed overseas. - That's no joke.
- It's like a documentary. - He's skiing. Oh, my.
- He's amazing. - My goodness.
- He's good at skiing. - Doesn't he look like an expert?
He's skiing where there's no marked trail.
- There's no marked trail? - Yes.
He goes wherever he wants.
(Wherever I go is the path.)
He's amazing. My goodness.
(He enjoys his hobbies for 365 days a year.)
Look at that photo.
I think that his wife should be sitting right here.
- Exactly. - She must have a lot to say.
Come to think of it, his wife must be even more worried.
Let's meet with this passionate man for now.
Hello.
Hello. It's nice to meet you.
Considering your skin tone, you look like you're addicted to exercises.
- Gosh. - He looks...
(Tired versus bright)
Can you understand your friend's worry?
I can understand him a little.
But he doesn't exercise with me for 365 days a year.
Just for four days a week.
(Four days a week?)
(What did you say?)
- That's a lot. - It's as if it's his job.
Even though you like exercises,
don't you ever get tired of exercising every single day?
I want to get some rest, but if I don't exercise...
Hold on a second. We heard from you.
- What did you say? - He gets injections for fatigue.
Do you get injections for fatigue to exercise every day?
(Shocked)
I get injections sometimes because I get tired.
But if I don't exercise, I feel anxious.
If I skip it for just a single day, I feel more tired the next day.
And I feel like my skills get rusty.
- So I exercise habitually. - He's like a professional athlete.
He said that you master sports and get a license.
How good are you?
I'm a certified scuba diving instructor.
I got about 17 licenses related to scuba diving.
I also hold the ski instructor license.
As for golf, I went golfing yesterday.
My score was 75.
How good of golf score is 75?
- 72 is called even. - That's right.
- 3 points difference. - If you compare it to 100m race,
- the world's famous male athlete... - How fast is he?
can run 100m in less than nine seconds.
And good amateurs' records are...
- between 12 and 10 seconds. - Around 12 seconds.
- It's the same as 12 seconds. - Is that right?
- So he'd be on top among amateurs. - That's right.
Exactly. Even professional golfers often get a lower score than his...
if you watch golf matches.
However, why do you call him out so often?
Is it because you think he's easy?
(Am I easy?)
He's not easy.
When I ask him a couple of times, he always comes along.
How many times do you have to tell him for him to come along?
I think it takes less than 10 seconds.
Give it a try. Let's say you called him.
Pick up the phone.
- Hello? - Let's go golfing on Saturday.
I can't that day. I'm not feeling well.
I have errands to take care of. I have a lot to do.
Let's go. Just do them later. Come with me.
I really can't.
I have to get a lot done for my work too,
and my feet really hurt.
All right. I already booked it.
Don't be late on Saturday. I will text you.
That's it.
Say no. Tell him you can't make it.
I can't.
So this is what happens.
- Since you started it... - I lose.
Tell us what he said when you told him you had a blind date.
- When you had a blind date. - You're on the phone with him.
I have a blind date. I really can't.
You have to give up this time. I have a blind date. Please.
My parents are really worried.
What blind date?
I'll be going on a date with a lady, of course.
Who set you up for this date?
Another friend set me up for it.
I will be meeting her this week.
Just go golfing with me and meet her the next day.
I can't do that. She can only make it that day.
Never mind. We will get you a blind date. Just postpone it.
(The situation ends again.)
That's it?
Don't hang up the phone.
- He wins every time. - I lose. I lose.
"I lose. I lose."
He wins right away.
(He can't get out of it.)
Are there things you've told him but didn't convince him?
Every day, he calls me...
about 5 to 6 times.
- You talk to your friend. - He knows everything I do.
I planned to tell him that I have to attend a wedding.
When he asked whose wedding it was,
- You couldn't say it. - I've used up all my family.
I can't use anyone else's wedding as an excuse.
When there's a national holiday, you get several days of vacation.
He lets me rest on the day of the holiday.
- I spend it with my family. - He lets him rest.
- He lets him rest. - Is he your boss or what?
The holiday is your day-off.
If I refuse to go,
he says he will stop being my friend.
Why don't you put your mom on the phone then?
My mother is worried about my marriage.
She wants me to get married as soon as possible.
Once a while, she even cries.
Oh, dear. Are you saying you can't date a lady...
because of your friend?
I think it's a big reason.
I think that's his excuse.
As you can see,
- "As you can see". - He's not that handsome.
(He's not that handsome.)
He dances whenever there's music. To be honest,
(Why can't he date?)
(Part 2 will begin shortly.)
As you can see,
- "As you can see". - He's not that handsome.
(He's not that handsome.)
He looks great.
- He's manly and handsome. - He looks great.
Don't shiver your lips. Calm down.
- What else? - He is...
kind to every girl.
He's kind to every girl.
In front of girls, he dances whenever there's music.
- What? - To be honest,
I get surprised...
- when I watch him. - Do you dance?
He does a lot of unexpected things.
My friend is learning dancing as a hobby.
One night, he took a shower...
and fixed his hair. He dressed up nicely.
I asked him where he was going at such a late hour.
He said he was going to a club alone.
He begged me to come along, so I went along.
He danced for four straight hours without resting.
- He danced alone. - At a club?
He might be unwell because of dancing then.
Your feet might be hurting because you dance so much.
When you don't learn from an expert, you might injure yourself.
He said you danced non-stop for four hours.
Can you show us the passionate dance?
(He's flustered.)
(We are excited about it.)
("New Face" by Psy)
It's Psy's song.
(He's shy.)
(He completely changes.)
(He's been hiding his new face.)
Oh, my gosh.
(The professional dancer is shocked.)
(He lives and dies for dance.)
(His face is burning.)
(Wriggling)
Why? Continue.
He must be embarrassed.
I can tell that he's not a born dancer.
(Laughing)
How would you feel if you were on a blind date with him?
I don't feel comfortable dating...
a man who is overly passionate.
I am like him,
and we can't both be like that.
By the way, you said a while ago...
that your friend doesn't need a woman.
But you are married.
- Yes. - What happened?
I think your wife must be very frustrated by your hobby.
Does she not complain?
When we were dating, we often fought because of doing too many sports.
But after being together for a long time...
Actually, I married her on the premise that I won't play golf.
She got tricked into the marriage.
- He must've played so much. - But now we play it together.
We go diving together too.
Now she does it with you.
They do it together.
(That's a twist.)
(This is why I have nothing to say.)
First of all, let's meet other victims.
- Victims. - I am most excited.
- They don't look happy. - Let's talk to each of them.
What did he do to you?
I've known him for a long time.
I've known him for more than 10 years.
We played more sports together.
We played baseball together.
Baseball.
We played soccer. We cycled. We did scuba-diving together.
We skied together too. We did many things together.
Then what was so tough about working out with him?
I knew he only wanted to teach me well.
But I once vomited while exercising.
My nose bled while scuba-diving.
- Right. - Those things happened.
When you ski with him,
he makes you wear a radio, and he guides you on what to do.
There are a receiver and a transmitter.
And he only wears the transmitter.
- He only wears the transmitter. - He only talks.
- But he only... - He won't listen.
gave me the receiver.
You see,
there's no radio like that in the world.
- You can't communicate. - It's a radio.
We skied for hours,
and he bombarded me with...
- beautiful words. - "Beautiful words"?
To be honest, it hurt my pride.
It made me sad too.
Do you still follow him?
These days, I don't usually answer his calls.
- He's different. - You have to do that.
That's why all the calls go to him.
He says he keeps his phone turned off. Did you know?
I had an idea.
But I go to his house, so it's okay.
- He's unbelievable. - He's unbelievable.
Let's meet the victim next to him.
It seems like he's been damaged the most.
Right. He looks too grim.
He first introduced me to skiing.
He only told me how to move forward and stop.
- Then he told me to follow him. - Oh, my.
- That's dangerous. - We went to a slope.
- We went up to the steepest slope. - That's dangerous.
He told me to somehow make my way down and went down.
I rolled about 30 times...
- That's dangerous. - and struggled to get down.
After that, I never went skiing again.
- Of course. - He'd be too scared.
In the case of scuba-diving,
he booked the plane tickets first.
Then he told me to file for a vacation leave.
Why can't you turn him down?
Why do you follow him?
In the case of scuba-diving,
when you first get a license,
you can only go as deep as 15 meters below the sea.
He would then make you get the next level license.
- So you can go deeper. - He would say you'd see...
unbelievable marine life if you got 30m below sea level.
- "Unbelievable". - He says it's a spectacular view.
- He's persuasive. - He talks you into it.
(But after all, it's their own decision.)
Let's meet the next victim.
I knew how to play golf,
but I wasn't particularly into it.
There's a golf club, and they were appointing a chairman.
And he recommended me for the position.
(It's getting more and more interesting.)
I said I don't want to do it.
When I said I really don't want to do it,
he said there was nobody else who could take the job.
He said someone who has leadership like me has to do it.
So I became the chairman.
I am still running the club, and it's killing me.
You are running the club.
You are working hard, sir.
(Please help us, victims.)
(Oh, dear.)
You said you are afraid...
of losing your friend. Is there a reason for that?
Yes. Last year was a really tough time for me.
My best friend passed away.
(His best friend passed away.)
(Oh, dear.)
We've been friends since high school.
We ran a business together, and we did everything together.
You used to share your everyday life with him.
- And I lose my best friend. - Oh, dear.
I became very depressed.
But my friend, Mr. Passionate, helped me get through it.
It was as he was filling in my friend's space.
That's how I attached I became to him.
And I want our friendship to last.
Do you fear that...
your friend will leave you if you tell him...
you can't do it and turn him down?
I am afraid that we might become distant.
You fear that you might become distant from each other.
Did you know about this? And how he came to this?
I knew about the incident,
- but I didn't know... - Did you know that...
this is why he couldn't say no to you?
I didn't know.
Then did you actually think he really enjoys it?
- Yes. I thought... - You thought he enjoys it.
he keeps joining me because he enjoys it.
Now I know that he couldn't say no because he was afraid of losing me.
And it bothers me.
If he refused until the end, would you have grown...
apart from him?
Even if he refused until the end, we would've still...
remained as good friends.
What if he refuses every time you call him?
That wouldn't be all right.
(Yes. You have to keep working out with me.)
I was listening without thinking much.
But he said he's good to his friend because he thinks...
he is just like the friend he lost.
Do you think your friend who passed away will thank you for it?
Would he like that? He would never want that.
If your friend leaves you for saying no to his requests,
that's a blessing. If he leaves you for such a petty reason,
you should be grateful that you got rid of someone who is bad for you.
You'll be left with only true friends. I have a few friends.
No matter how your situations change and what happens to you,
your friend has to always stay as your friend.
- That's the true friend. - Right.
If you are not happy about something, you should say it.
A friend is someone you can talk comfortably to.
A friend is someone who understands you for it.
- Right. - Lastly,
please clearly express your opinion.
When I say I am not well,
it means I am really unwell.
(Laughing)
I am a precious child too.
I hope you will stop saying things...
- that shatter my self-esteem. - Right.
You have to tell him those things.
If I ever get married,
I want you to not play golf on my wedding day.
I want you to come to my wedding.
You want him to come to your wedding instead of playing golf.
Of course, I will.
From now on, I will refrain...
from saying things that hurt your self-esteem.
I will respect your opinion.
I am sorry, buddy.
(He apologizes to his friend.)
- He's great. - He's great.
He's the sportsman.
Let's start with Ji Woo.
- I think it's not a worry. - It's not a worry.
- What about you, Gook Ju? - I think his dancing skill is...
a worry.
But still...
If he becomes a little more honest,
- Yes. Speak your mind. - their friendship will get better.
When you talk about what you aren't happy with...
and when you accept each other's opinion,
your friendship can last much longer, and it will be healthier.
I hope that will happen to them.
- I think it's a worry. - I see.
In a relationship, I think...
respect is the most important.
I am so glad you mentioned respect.
That dance of yours is a disrespect to others.
- Do another dance. - Okay.
That's not a dance.
(He makes it clear.)
If you think it's a worry,
please press the button.
(What does the audience think?)
5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
Time's up.
"Spare Me".
(The result)
Is it over 100?
What's the result?
It's 78 votes.
(78 votes)
This story is titled "Unexpected Childrearing".
Hello. My friends are busy preparing for their retirement.
But I am a mother in her 50s who's busy with something else.
A year ago, my 34-year-old son...
suddenly came to me with his son.
"Mom, I got a divorce."
"Let's move in together."
Since then, my life got completely messed up.
Perhaps my son is really enjoying his single life.
He's busy doing so many things.
He runs a cafe.
He plays the trumpet.
He's an after-school teacher too.
He is a poet.
He's the administrative officer of a music association.
He even works for writer's association.
He does everything he wants to do.
He always comes home around 9 or 10pm.
When he's late, he doesn't come home until 1 or 2am.
"What is this? You should take care of your own child."
"Mom, please look after him."
"I have to work, you know."
He uses work as an excuse and makes me look after his son.
Besides, what breaks my heart the most is this.
When my grandson says, "Daddy, play with me."
"Be quiet! I said I'm working."
"Can't you see me working?"
He doesn't play with his son,
and he even yells at his 8-year-old son.
What's wrong with him?
Please help my son.
(Come to your senses, Son.)
Gook Ju, you are the eldest. You are a devoted daughter.
I am not. My mom made me do so many things.
She made me learn piano, mental arithmetic, and many more.
When I was younger, I only wanted to do what I wanted to do.
But my mom kept making me do what I don't like.
- Did you say "ssireum"? - "Ssireum"?
No, I said, "what I don't like".
(I said, "what I don't like".)
I thought you said ssireum.
That's your bias talking.
- I have to stay sharp. - I clearly heard "ssireum".
- Really? - I heard "ssireum" too.
- Right? - Let's say I learned ssireum.
She kept making me do things I don't like.
I just skipped classes and ran away from them.
I gave her a very hard time.
That's fine.
How about you, Sang Wook?
I still trouble my parents.
- With what? - I don't eat.
That's very wrong.
- Why wouldn't you eat? - That's bad.
Right.
(He can't be forgiven.)
Let's bring in the guest.
Please come on out.
(Who's the lady in her 50s who is struggling to look after...)
(her grandson on behalf of her busy son?)
Ji Woo, please escort her.
(Welcome.)
(Lee Geum Ok)
- He should guide her to the stairs. - This way. To the stairs.
Why would you just pull her up when there are stairs?
(No wonder it was tough.)
It's because of my habit of lifting up ladies.
(It's his habit.)
Is your divorced son living with you?
Yes. He's 34 now.
It's been just over a year.
I live with my son and my grandson.
He used to work for a company.
But after the divorce, he wanted to do what he wants to do.
He majored trumpet at college.
- In college. - Yes.
I told him to make me a promise.
I told him to do what he likes...
while taking care of his son.
But I do all the childrearing.
(The reality is that she's doing it all alone.)
- Right now? - Yes.
(What?)
While I work for a company...
You work too?
Because of my grandson, I changed my job many times.
I had to find the job that suits my schedule.
- You work part-time. - Yes.
I leave at 3am and comes home...
- You come home. - at 2pm.
I pick up my grandson from school.
I have to cook for him and play with him.
My husband passed away 12 years ago...
from a sickness.
I never knew I'd be raising a child...
at this age.
- He's only eight. - Yes.
Doesn't he look for his mom?
Fortunately, he's always really liked his dad.
- That's fortunate. - He's always liked his dad.
He always asks when his dad is coming.
I tell him to give a call, but he doesn't call.
On some weekends, he's free.
But he says he's tired and sleeps.
- He doesn't play with his child. - He doesn't.
My grandson wants to play with him.
He once said to me, "Grandma, Dad is a phone addict."
(Grandma, Dad is a phone addict.)
(Why is he doing that to his own son?)
When a parent comes here to complain about their child,
it gets tough for us.
Because he's your child, you feel bad.
And you change your mind.
At first, a parent would say, "He's making my life miserable."
- That's what you said too. - But because there are many people,
the parent ends up saying, "He's not that bad."
- Right. - You seem to be going soft.
So we will hurry and meet your son.
Let's meet her son. Hello.
Hello. I am Lee Geum Ok's son.
You just heard her speak about her concern. Do you understand her?
Yes. It worries me.
But I had a long-term plan,
and I wished she'd understand me.
But you should come home early and take care of your son.
Are you not willing to come home early?
When I am in the middle of something with people,
it's hard for me to leave in the middle to see my son.
If things progress in my absence,
I don't get informed about it.
I try to leave after getting the important information.
And I end up always going home late.
But that's when you call.
- That's what she wants. - Right.
I tell myself I should call her.
But I always think I should just finish it fast and leave fast.
I always think that way.
(Just call me instead of thinking.)
You had about six jobs.
He's the administrative officer of a music association...
- He's a poet, after-school teacher, - Other than music,
- and runs a cafe. - what do you do?
Because I do music,
I work as an administrative officer at a music association.
There's also the Korean Writers Association.
There's another association?
Yes. We hold events.
I also write things...
- on my SNS. - Like Sang Wook.
What's your original job?
Which one is your main job?
My main job is running the cafe.
I'm branching out from there.
- You're branching out. - Yes.
- He even runs a cafe. - Do you know Sang Wook?
Yes, I do.
He also does something similar.
Thank you. Are you a follower?
- Yes. - Really?
You do all these jobs, and you're also a follower?
- He monitors as well. - He does everything with no income.
- He's always looking at his phone. - Right.
- I know. - This is similar...
to those who can't throw away their belongings.
I don't think he can bear to throw away...
- the littlest opportunities he has. - Right.
I think so.
Is it possible for you to do all that in one single day?
I wake up at 6am,
prepare my son for school, and eat.
I arrive at school by 7:50am and prepare for class.
From 8am to 9am, I teach a class.
After that, if I have association matters to attend to,
I do them and prepare documents.
At 10am or 11am, I go to the cafe.
At 5pm, I leave the cafe to perform...
or rehearse until 7:30pm.
After that, I return home.
If there are some documents I need to take care of,
I do that.
I revise any writings that I do.
- My goodness. - That's my schedule.
(My head hurts.)
Do you still get a chance to see your son every day?
Yes, I teach my class at my son's school.
I wanted to show my son's friends that I'm their teacher.
We go to class together.
But the problem is,
he's not playing with his son.
- He's going there to teach. - Right.
In my point of view,
he's not playing with his son.
When I come home from work,
the house is a mess. The bed is unorganized,
and the dishes are in the sink.
Sometimes, he doesn't feed his son...
or serve him poor breakfast.
His son sometimes goes to school without eating.
When do you do house chores...
such as laundry or cleaning?
I only have brief moments in between my work.
- He pretty much doesn't do them. - In the middle.
Isn't that right?
- I know house chores can be hard. - Right.
But playing with your son is physically exhausting.
I know that because I have a son of my own.
Isn't it tiring for you to play with your grandson?
Yes, since I'm old,
whenever he wants to play with paper disks, it hurts my arm.
Goodness, her frozen shoulders would make it difficult...
for her to even lift her arms.
I also play paper disks with my son.
- Paper disks. - He's into robots these days,
and I have to assemble them myself.
Goodness.
- He can't do it himself. - Yes.
Do you wear your reading glasses and assemble them?
Since my son has no time, I have no choice but to do it.
If it doesn't work,
I bring him with me to a kids' cafe.
Does he not whine in front of his dad?
No, he does.
But then, my son gets mad at him.
When my grandson tells me about it,
my son tells him not to because it'll only make us argue.
He tells his son to play alone.
When his father scolds him,
saying that he's in trouble because of him,
I'm sure your son will become startled.
And watching them, you'll feel guilty...
about getting your grandson in trouble.
Why do you do that? Is it intentional?
Please raise your head.
- Because it's too... - Your head is blinding us.
(An unexpected light appears.)
- I'm sorry. - He doesn't know what to say...
and keeps lowering his head.
I know how you feel, but you should say...
- what's on your mind. - Right.
After arguing with my mother regarding my son,
I'm in an angry state.
And I think that anger is then directed at my son.
When I tell my mother that I'm struggling,
she tells me that it's my burden to take.
Hearing that from her makes me feel hurt.
He claims that you're aggressive when you speak with him.
But when you're talking to us you talk like this.
(They're very quiet.)
It's nice to hear.
Since I'm confused about this, I'm going to ask...
- how you get angry... - Let me explain.
- to your grandson. - Oh, I see.
- I don't think you will tell us. - It'll be the most accurate...
to ask your grandson.
- You're so handsome. - What's his name?
- Lee Joo Young. - Where are you, Joo Young?
- Lee Joo Young! - He's so cute.
Introduce yourself.
Tell us your name and introduce yourself.
Stand up and introduce yourself.
- Go. - Hello.
I'm eight years old. I'm Lee Joo Young.
- Okay. - Hi.
Joo Young.
Make a promise.
I will tell the truth.
"I will tell the truth."
- Okay. - You have to.
- You have to. - Am I pretty?
No.
(He gives a curt answer.)
- He's so honest. - Then...
(You didn't have to answer that curtly.)
All right. Am I really not that pretty?
Am I that ugly?
(No, you're not.)
- Stop asking. - You should stop.
(Why are you doing this to me?)
(He's so honest.)
Your grandma told me...
that you don't sleep until your dad comes home.
No, I don't. I really like my dad.
- Goodness. - Goodness.
(He wants to play with his dad.)
Is it true that you called him...
a phone addict?
Yes. During the nighttime, he reads his book.
Does he not play games?
Yes, he does.
(He's caught.)
- He plays games as well. - What do you want him...
to do instead?
I wish he could play with me.
(He wishes his dad would play with him.)
(He's always yearning for him.)
What do you want to do with him?
- Soccer. - Soccer?
- I see. - I see.
- Soccer? - Do you have a soccer ball at home?
There was a hole in it, so we threw it away.
Why do I feel like his dad purposely put a hole in it?
(Play with him, will you?)
Do you worry about anything regarding him?
Yes. Being in danger.
What?
(Is he sick?)
- What? - Doing dangerous things.
Is he in danger?
I thought he meant gastritis.
- Me too. - Me too.
- I thought so too. - I wondered how he knew that word.
Do you think your grandma is having a hard time?
- I don't know. - I see.
He says he doesn't know to things that are difficult to answer.
But when it comes to my face, he answers immediately.
He replied right away.
- I know. - He shook his head.
Let me ask again.
She's so petty.
Am I pretty?
No.
(She's hurt once again.)
(That's enough.)
(You could lie, you know?)
He doesn't get to spend much time with his son and comes home late.
- He's quite busy. - Right.
Does he at least give you enough money?
I bet he does.
- He works a lot. - He should give you money.
Not at all.
What?
(What?)
I pretty much pay for everything...
regarding my grandson.
I spend about 700 to 1,500 dollars a month.
The reason why I do that is...
because on top of not having a mom, if I keep telling him no,
- he might get hurt. - He might get discouraged.
It could turn into anger.
How long have you been supporting him?
When I heard that his mother was pregnant with him,
I went to visit her, and she had nothing prepared.
I told her to get hospitalized and bought all the necessities.
After that, they moved in with me.
I paid for everything and even their food.
Do you get paid a lot?
I assemble vehicle parts.
During the summer, I sweat a lot.
The machinery is...
- They're really hot. - over 200°C to 500°C.
But we can't turn on the fan...
- because they can't cool down. - Right.
(Did he know how hard his mother was working?)
As for the cafe,
business isn't going too well.
After I pay all my expenses, I'm left with about 200 dollars.
- 200 dollars? - What?
As for teaching classes or performing,
I usually do it once or twice a week or more.
It's not regular.
I usually make 1,000 dollars a month.
So it's difficult for me to give her money.
(But you do everything you want.)
If the situation is this dire...
and since doing music isn't making much money either,
you could've postponed doing it.
Realistically speaking, you should snap out of it and help her out.
Why are you like this?
I thought you gave her living expenses.
I didn't plan this from the beginning.
I used to work in a factory, and I felt dizzy for a month.
The doctor said my muscles were pressing onto my blood vessels...
and that not enough blood was reaching my brain.
He said it was a critical situation.
I had the option of either resting for some time or quitting.
He said the job didn't seem to suit me.
And on top of that, I had a divorce.
As for my music,
I didn't start it again with the thought...
of wanting to succeed.
It was just something I used to do, and they wanted me to do it again.
- Right. - I felt thankful, so I did it.
After listening to what you've said,
I realize that in the beginning, you were just a student,
so you had no choice but to receive her support.
But you were relying on her all throughout your marriage life.
Because of that, it seems like it has become...
a habit and a given for you to rely on her.
What do you think?
When I was young and caused trouble,
my mother was the one who took care of everything.
I do admit that it has become a habit.
(Where did we go wrong?)
I know it will sound cruel,
but this is your fault.
- He is right. - That's so cruel.
- Listen. - No, I understand.
I admit it.
You admit it, but you can't cut him off.
It's hard when I think about my grandson.
Although she has given you...
all the love she has,
you made people tell her that...
everything is her fault.
You are the worst son.
(He hangs his head again.)
- Sir. - Yes?
Hanging your head isn't a solution.
You need to feel that this is a serious situation...
by meeting your mom's eyes and seeing other people's faces.
Why should your mom receive criticism...
when she gave you everything?
(You need to understand and change.)
When I heard the story earlier,
I thought you had a dream you couldn't give up on.
But you only took up music again...
because of someone's suggestion.
Are you so determined about this dream...
that you can't give up despite your family's struggles?
As for music,
it's the biggest thing in my life.
For over 10 years, it was the only thing in my life.
Hold on.
(It's the dream that makes up his life.)
(My son.)
To commit to the married life,
I stopped making music and worked at a factory.
The marriage fell apart despite my effort.
To be honest, I want to continue making music.
I really do.
But I know it would be greedy to say it.
It would hurt my mom.
- You feel bad. - I feel uncomfortable.
Although I recently realized that...
I shouldn't live this way,
- I want to continue making music. - I had...
a similar experience.
(He becomes emotional.)
My mom...
always worked at restaurants.
- My goodness. - Your mom was the same.
For over 30 years, she went to work at dawn...
and came home at 11pm.
- 11pm? - Yes.
I want to tell you this.
To become a writer,
I had to quit my work.
I couldn't make up my mind for 6 to 7 months.
I knew that my mom would suffer too much...
if I am out of work.
However, I did want to write.
After 6 to 7 months, I began to make money.
Then I realized that...
my loved ones won't suffer even if I pursue this career.
That's how I made up my mind.
(He decided to quit after.)
I was 33 years old when that happened.
You have a child.
You shouldn't be selfish.
Even if it's a dream you desperately want to pursue,
you should make sure...
your action doesn't hurt your loved ones.
That doesn't mean you are giving up on yourself.
It's for your own sake.
If you work for people around you,
- you will become happy. - That's right.
(If you achieve your dream by making your family suffer,)
(will you really be happy?)
(Will it really be the future you wanted?)
I wrote a poem titled "Filial Duty" that went,
"I should do it, I should have done it."
Your mom won't wait forever.
Your child won't stay a child forever.
It would be a good life...
to compromise and live for your family.
- That's right. - I want to tell you that.
Right.
(Think about what you should protect.)
(Dad, don't cry.)
(Don't push your responsibility to another.)
What kind of plans do you have for the future?
I want to find a more stable job by getting...
the AutoCAD certification or Fire Safety certification.
What will you do until you get those certifications?
I gave it some thoughts.
I could stop everything I am doing right now...
- and work part-time and study. - That's a good idea.
What do you think about your son's plans?
It's a good thing for his child,
but I know how he started music in high school.
Gosh, I feel bad.
You don't want him to give up on his dream.
I didn't say that. I just know how he started the music.
(She can't be stern.)
(My heart aches.)
It's hard to teach a lesson to a grown-up child.
It's the environment that does it.
And you are the one who can create that environment.
I think you should change so that your son can change.
That's right. You need to change.
You should promise us, too.
- You need to be sterner. - How will you change?
Give me 500 dollars per month.
"Give me."
Tell him that until he gives you the money.
You should take responsibility for your family.
Live happily with Joo Young.
(Intimidated)
Sir.
- Yes? - Stop making that face.
Even though he isn't my son, I want to help him.
Why does he look so pitiful?
(Sad)
You are making that face again.
Be more confident.
I will come home early at least 3 or 4 times a week.
- 3 or 4 times a week? - Yes.
On the weekend...
(Dad will come home early.)
Even if it's not for all day long, I will go out...
- with my son. - Okay.
I will become a man who helps his mother.
- I will raise Joo Young well. - Really?
Thank you. I love you.
You can do it.
(I will cheer for you.)
We think you will uphold your promise,
so we prepared a present.
(What present?)
(Expectant)
It's nothing big. I don't want you to be expectant.
It's a small soccer ball...
from Tae Gyun.
(Happy)
(Dad, you will play with me, right?)
- Kick it towards your dad. - Play with your dad.
(Take this.)
(He is excited.)
You haven't done this in a long while.
Sir, kick it.
Take it. Take it. Goal.
(Giggling)
- Are you happy? - Yes.
(Playing with his dad makes him smile.)
(I didn't know he would be so happy.)
(He is so happy.)
- Ma'am, are you happy? - Yes.
(She smiles as well.)
- Will you play with Dad? - Yes.
He will play with you every day.
(Make happy memories with your dad from now on.)
(I am sorry for being a bad dad.)
(So that his family can smile brightly,)
(he should return the love and dedication...)
(and become a dependable son and father.)
(Good luck.)
If you think it's a worry, please press the button.
I think he should really come to his senses.
- Nothing is impossible. - That's right.
I still remember the fight my parents had when I was seven.
"When I had Gook Ju, you didn't come home for a week."
She said it jokingly, but I thought,
"Why didn't he come home for a week?"
"Did he not like me?"
I still remember thinking that my dad didn't like me.
This is an important period for your son.
I want to tell you this.
Joo Young is at the age to make memories with his dad...
not miss his dad.
I also think it's a worry.
If you think it's a worry, please press the button.
(What does the audience think?)
- 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. - 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
Time's up.
How many votes did the worry get?
(The result)
Out of 200 votes, did it get 160 votes? 170 votes?
150 votes.
(150 votes)
Thus, "Unexpected Childrearing" wins this week.
("Unexpected Childrearing" wins.)
We will give the winner the prize money.
Congratulations.
Until the day we are all worry-free,
Hello will continue to counsel you.
- Thank you. - Thank you.